Time keeps on moving and continues to baffle me. In the past week I’ve had days fly by in the blink of an eye and moments last for lifetimes; some I wanted to escape sensations almost immediately, and others I could have existed in eternally blissful. There is really no rhyme or reason to it all, and no formula as to what evokes a guaranteed experience.
Yet, I have found a few things I am learning to rely on in these times:
• the Power of the Pause
• tying action and word to kindness will mostly yield positive results
• taking time to connect to self is never wasted
There have been some incredibly intense times personally – showing up physically with house issues, body aches, and emotional flareups left & right, from myself and those close to me. I’ve gone through waves of what I can only describe as heartache, felt as pressure in my chest as if diving down to the bottom of the sea; perhaps a grieving, or a longing. We’ve had breakdowns and breakthroughs in our family unit, and this process is one that is never-ending. We are healing and learning together, constantly refining how to better relate to each other and work together.
The above lessons play a really big role in how we’ve grown. When I pause I get to choose my response instead of possibly falling victim to my habitual or triggered response. When I ensure my actions and words fit through a gate of kindness, I am more likely to connect with the tender place in myself or my children that’s hurting and needing attention & care. If I’m taking regular time to connect with my own heart and inner goodness and inner child, I know who I am wanting to be and can align my actions and words to that path. Of course, I mess up and admit mistakes and ask for forgiveness, offering grace and understanding and compassion in return. It becomes a beautiful dance.